Why say “It’s only a game!”
I always wonder what the word triumph actually mean. Is really there any road to the triumph? A soccer player wants a FA cup, an actor want an Oscar, an athlete want an Olympic medal, as a chef its three-Michelin’s stars, there’s no greater than that. Everybody in this world is running after some goal or the other. But does everybody succeed? There is only one gold medal in Olympics, only one Oscar for any individual category. Not everyone get what they want in his/her life. And if one doesn’t get his/her goal, then should he/she be called as a loser. What distinguishes a loser and a winner, what actually makes a winner? Is it the luck that matter, is it a gifted birth or is there any supplement that makes a winner.
The reason most people never reach their goals is that they don’t define them, learn about them, or even seriously consider them as believable or achievable. Winners actually possess a positive and constructive state of mind that distinguishes them from the crowd. The self confidence and self motivation is the key to success. You have to believe in yourself when no one else does – that makes you a winner right there. The winner’s edge is not in a gifted birth, a high IQ, or in talent. The winner’s edge is all in the attitude, not aptitude. Attitude is the criterion for success.
There are some personality traits, which distinguish a winner from a loser:
A loser doesn’t know what he’ll do if he loses, but talks about what he’ll do if he wins, and a winner doesn’t talk about what he’ll do if he wins, but knows what he’ll do if he loses.
Losers decide to do something but don’t do it or decide not to do something, but go ahead and do it, under external pressure. Winners do the opposite. They decide to do something and do it, or decide not to do something and don’t do it.
Losers see problems in every opportunity. Winners see opportunity in every problem.
Losers are too proud to admit their mistakes. Winners are proud that they learn from their mistakes.
Losers reject suggestions because the acceptance makes them feel inferior. Winners welcome suggestions because they are open to learning.
Losers envy winners. Winners congratulate every successful person.
Losers focus on pleasurable activities. Winners manage a proper balance between work and leisure.
Losers want an easy life without any suffering or hardship. Winners know that what one sows is what one reaps. They know that efforts and action don’t go unnoticed. They progress through trials and errors, without giving up.
Losers dream but don’t act. Winners are always willing to do everything which is necessary to achieve their dreams.
Losers don’t move forward, because they are afraid to come out of their comfort zone. Winners move forward by refusing to tolerate all negative things, which hold them back. They create space in their lives for positive experiences.
Losers think of all that is impossible. Winners think of infinite possibilities.
Losers submit passively to surroundings and events; winners make choices based on what they want to do, have and become.
Losers let others change their goals. Winners believe in themselves and their dreams.
Losers live in the past. But Winners enjoy being in the present and learn from the past.
Losers do the same thing over and over again expecting different results. Winners try different strategies when they are not getting the results they want.
Losers work half heartedly in everything that they do. Winners give their best for the things that they decide to do.
Losers follow the crowd. Winners think whether the crowd is going in the right direction. If not, he will walk the other direction.
Implementing the above traits in one’s personality can surely carve and shape a winner’s mind and can make winning a habit. The ‘losers’ mentioned in above differences are not the real losers. Losing a game doesn’t make a loser, but losing the hope to win makes a loser. So if you don’t achieve a goal, never lose the hope, never push your step back. Reignite the fire of passion and hope in yourself and perform as a winner. Plan to win, prepare to win and expect to win; and learn not to say “It’s only a game”.